In my last blog I described how to use TOPDOG which stands for Talk-Organisation-Position-Dress-Office-Gambit to work out the core emotional drives of someone’s personality and in particular the three clues of Organisation, Position and Gambit. Now I am going to discuss the other three clues: Talk, Dress, and Office based on the 7MTF/Humm model of core emotions. This is a simple framework you use when you first meet someone. First, talk. What a person says and how it is said are major clues .....Read More
While self-awareness and self-management are important steps in developing Emotional Intelligence it is probably the final two steps of social awareness and social skills that are more important for success in life. How do you work out the core emotional drives of other people? How do you develop the social skills to make others more effective? Social Awareness or empathy is commonly defined as identifying with or experiencing of the feelings of another. Typical advice to people trying to imp.....Read More
One of my major criticisms of the Salovey-Meyer model is that it has too much focus is on transient emotions and too little time is spent on temperament, which is our genetic predisposition to reacting emotionally. Only about 3% of The Emotionally Intelligent Manager is spent on this topic. I have addressed this issue in a previous blog but this week I read a book that captures this difference beautifully. There was a wonderful article in The New Yorker (23 February 2009) about the English aut.....Read More
So far I have suggested two ways of moving to Stage II of Emotional Intelligence: playing golf and reading about it. Another way is to watch films. In a blog discussion about what films you could watch to develop emotional intelligence, I remember someone suggesting The Doctor. a 1991 film starring William Hurt. The film suddenly appeared on one of cable channels and I have just watched it. The Doctor in question, Jack MacKee, is a gifted surgeon who tells his residents that that techni.....Read More
"Put in a sales perspective, I loved your presentation! I got a lot from what you talked about and I will read your book."
Peter Morris, Executive Officer, Lomax Financial Group
Your presentation on 'Lifting your Level of Emotional Intelligence" to 10 CEOs scored an average 8.9 out of 10 for the topic and 8.5 for the presentation which is great. A couple of the attendees gave you a 10 out of 10, and the comments were:
- Great presentation. Very informative.
- Excellent presentation.
- made me think.
Christi Spring CEO Institute. - web www.ceo.com.au.