Developing self-control – read Lazarus Rising
As I said in my previous blog one way of improving your self control is to take up golf. Another way is to read about people who have demonstrated self control in order to see what makes them tick. In 2010 one of the best examples of self-control was the shoe-throwing incident involving John Howard on the ABC program Q&A Howard showed remarkable control over his emotions. Over this Christmas I read the 663 pages of Howard’s recent biography Lazarus Rising. (The title comes from How.....
Read MoreIs Golf the Perfect Way to Learn EQ?
I had the great fortune to attend the 2009 Masters tournament in Augusta. This is an event that should be on every golfer’s bucket list. On the final day my wife and I were sitting in stands overlooking the 16th par 3 hole and the 15th green. The final pair of Angel Cabrera and Kenny Perry were hitting off the 16th tee. Cabrera had the honour but was two strokes down to Perry. His shot landed about four yards left and pin high. We had been sitting in these stands for the whole of the day and w.....
Read MoreStep 2 Self-management — Lifting Your EQ
Knowing the dominant and weak core emotional drives of your temperament is the important first step in lifting your EQ (Emotional intelligence Quotient). However, the second step of learning to control and moderate your core emotional drives is probably even more important. In previous blogs I have mentioned that I use the 7MTF/Humm model of temperament of seven drives. (A good summary can be found here.) A key part of this model is the change of personality as one becomes more mature and .....
Read MoreStep 1: Self-awareness – Lifting Your EQ
I have stated previously that I don’t like the Mayer-Salovey Emotional Blueprint model that EQ (Emotional intelligence Quotient) comprises the four abilities of being able to identify, use, understand and manage emotions. I am much happier with Daniel Goleman’s model that describes EQ as comprising four steps: Self-awareness — the ability to read one’s emotions. Self-management — controlling one’s emotions and impulses. Social awareness — empathetically understanding others’ e.....
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Your presentation on 'Lifting your Level of Emotional Intelligence" to 10 CEOs scored an average 8.9 out of 10 for the topic and 8.5 for the presentation which is great. A couple of the attendees gave you a 10 out of 10, and the comments were:
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